Ep. 193 - The Doctor Is In Series - Shame, The Good The Bad And The Coping

Welcome to the Social-Engineer Podcast: The Doctor Is In Series – where we will discuss understandings and developments in the field of psychology.

 

In today’s episode, Chris and Abbie are discussing: Shame. We will talk about how shame helps us, hinders us, why some people can deal with it and why some can’t. We’ll also discuss various coping strategies and more.  [Jan 02, 2023]

 

00:00 – Intro

00:17 – Dr. Abbie Maroño Intro

00:55 – Intro Links

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• CLUTCH- http://www.pro-rock.com/
• org- http://www.innocentlivesfoundation.org/

03:38 – The topic of the day: Shame                                                  

05:44 – Is there a positive side to shame?                                                      

07:29 – Directed by beliefs                                                    

09:02 – Cultural differences                                                  

10:14 – Shame's functionality                                               

11:16 – Societal stigma                                            

12:35 – How shame can hinder                                            

16:36 – Literal shutdown                                                       

19:30 – Emotional Blunting                                                   

22:15 – Guilt vs Shame: Sense of Self                                                

24:14 – Those who can, cope!                                              

26:54 – When shame is a symptom                                                   

28:09 – Finding a support network                                                    

30:03 – The "core" of shame                                                 

33:45 – The road to Mindfulness                                                        

37:20 – Environmental Shame                                              

38:34 – Horrifically fascinating                                             

41:06 – You have to get out there!                                                     

43:00 – Tips for our younger listeners                                               

45:25 – Remember Pen Pals?                                                

46:44 – Wrap Up                                                       

47:39 – Outro

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• innocentlivesfoundation.org

 

 

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Garey, S. S. (1998). Long-term effects of sibling emotional and physical abuse on adult self-concept and the associated guilt and shame. United States International University.

 

Gilchrist, J. D., Solomon-Krakus, S., Pila, E., Crocker, P., & Sabiston, C. M. (2020). Associations between physical self-concept and anticipated guilt and shame: The moderating role of gender. Sex Roles, 83(11), 763-772.

 

Harper, J. M. (2011). Regulating and coping with shame. Re-constructing emotional spaces: From experience to regulation, 189-206.

 

Hawes, D. J., Helyer, R., Herlianto, E. C., & Willing, J. (2013). Borderline personality features and implicit shame-prone self-concept in middle childhood and early adolescence. Journal of Clinical Child & Adolescent Psychology, 42(3), 302-308.

 

Kinston, W. (1983). A theoretical context for shame. International Journal of Psycho-Analysis, 64, 213-226.

 

Krüger, S., & Rustad, G. C. (2019). Coping with shame in a media-saturated society: Norwegian web-series Skam as transitional object. Television & new media, 20(1), 72-95.

 

Nathanson, D. L. (1987). The many faces of shame. In Partially based on a symposium held in Los Angeles, 1984 for the 137th Annual Meeting of the American Psychiatric Association.. The Guilford Press.

 

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Taylor, P. J., McDonald, J., Smith, M., Nicholson, H., & Forrester, R. (2019). Distinguishing people with current, past, and no history of non-suicidal self-injury: Shame, social comparison, and self-concept integration. Journal of Affective Disorders, 246, 182-188.

 

Taylor, T. F. (2015). The influence of shame on posttrauma disorders: have we failed to see the obvious?. European journal of psychotraumatology, 6(1), 28847.